Relationships Are Like A Mirror

Relationships are like a mirror reflecting back the way we are. Through our interactions with others, we learn about ourselves. We cannot grow without taking in others. The feedback is immediate and sometimes harsh, but if we are open, illuminating. When we are gripped by the ego, we lose touch with our spiritual essence and react fearfully to others. If we're wise to these tendencies, we can reflect on our experiences and change.

We do not see things as they are -  we see them as we are. We project our attitudes, beliefs, perceptions, and misperceptions onto others. For example, people who are critical of others are usually privately critical of themselves; loud and boastful people are often trying to hide their anxieties; and people afraid that others will get one over on them are often looking to get one over on others. Similarly, if you think most people are selfish, its probably because you have selfish tendencies; if you believe others are unrealiable, they will canstantly let you down; and if you're the jealous sort, your jealousies are likely to be driven by your own insecurities.

When we learn to see relationships as a mirror, we clear the way to profound personal growth. No more blaming else for our unhappiness or handing over responsibility for our behaviour. The buck stops where it belongs.

A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror.

Ken Keyes Junior

Peace out.